The Six Exes

Why pick on Me?

Published on January 23, 2007 By anothermaso In Personal Relationships

So I was talking about the Twilight-Zone moment I had lately when six ex-boyfriends got in touch - over quite a short space of time. Some were way out of the box, so I thought I'd give you a run-down.

Number one was Andrew - who I dated in high school and hadn't seen for 17 years. My first serious BF and he's the one I talk about in my previous article Link. He's scary-smart and I always felt vaguely intimidated by him. His GF before me was a year older than us, so he had a bit of a reputation with the ladies, if you know what I mean.

Then Kevin said he'd be coming to Sydney over Christmas, and would like to catch up. These days he lives in beautiful Broome in Western Australia, thousands of kilometres away. We lived together abut 10 years ago and his GF since then has always been mad jealous of the fact that we're still friends. As we were for about 2 years before we started dating! But she's in Germany with her family at the moment, so he came over for dinner, enjoyed the balcony, spent the night in the spare room. Yes, I have a wonderful husband who understands that friendship can transcend the boundaries of a relationship. His ex is also a good friend to both of us and visits with her new partner regularly.

After that Bill told me he and his wife would be here for Brendan's bone marrow transplant - which I've also written about. Link Actually that's kind of fallen through because the match they had wasn't as good as they'd hoped but it will happen soon I'm sure.

Then Patrick rang up. He's a mad Scot I had a fling with when I travelled to Europe in '92 who always calls late at night when he's had a few too many. Fortunately as I live on the other side of the world I get to talk to him at a reasonable hour of the afternoon and am frequently amused by his babbling. But at one stage he got so stalker-like I had to get tough with him and threaten legal action! At least this time he's called just the once.

Tim tracked me down at work and fortunately I wasn't there - I had two days off - and Cathy who was working was smart enough not to give him my cell phone number. She gave me his number - which I promptly lost. He's the creep I was involved with just before Mark and I became involved, who seemed nice at the outset but turned into a gibbering drug-addled bipolar weirdo, who of course I tried to "save". Mother Theresa syndrome, anyone?

And finally Dominic emailed me out of the blue, which was lovely. We'd dated only briefly before deciding we were wrong for each other, but stayed friends for ages. Then he got married and his Brazilian bride apparently decided I was persona non grata. He says that's all changed, but he hasn't been in touch since I responded to that note, so we'll see.

Anyhoo - that's the series of events, which took about 8 weeks total. I'm still looking over my shoulder for more to pop up...

(Cue the Twilight Zone theme music)

Comments

KellyW0498

on Jan 23, 2007

I think almost every girl has a relationship where they wanted to "save" the other. As you know it usually doens't happen. I'm glad you got away from that one and met Mark. I know I only know you two virtually, but you suit each other.

Keep us updated!

Dr Guy

on Jan 23, 2007

I think it is wonderful! You and Mark have your poop together, and I can see why he is not jealous! He has a very smart and wonderful mate who knows who to talk to, and when to back away! Thanks for the explanation. But I saw in this not only your own self assurance, but Mark's as well. And a perfect (as near as us humans can get) couple. I am honored to have met you through his, and now your blogs! And I see a lot of hope! For all of us in it.

Strange, yes. Weird, hardly! And beautiful? Most definitely! Your blog is better than any of the internet emails we all recieve. It is one of love and self assurance. And that is fantastic!

Mark is a very lucky bloke. But I am not jealous, instead I am very happy that you have found each other! Thank you for a great christmas card story.

I was right. He is a couple levels below you! But only because he is learning from a true great one in the art of life. He will catch you. He has a great teacher!

Way to go Mark! You are a lucky man!

Tova7

on Jan 23, 2007

Six isn't one of my favorite numbers....it always brings me bad luck. So here's hoping just one more ex will give ya a shout.

My husband is not insecure, he just refuses to acknowledge I ever cared about any man before him.

Therefore, ex's do not exist.

Dr Guy

on Jan 23, 2007

My husband is not insecure, he just refuses to acknowledge I ever cared about any man before him.

Yep!

foreverserenity

on Jan 23, 2007

(Cue the Twilight Zone theme music)

Dadadadadadadadddaaaaaaa.....LOL!

Scary, in that all of a sudden you're bombarded by them all and funny, because you tell the story so well!

Hopefully no more pops up!

MasonM

on Jan 23, 2007

Kind of reminds me of the night all five of the girls I was dating showed up at the bar within a 2o minute period. I was so glad that they all got along.

anothermaso

on Jan 24, 2007

Kelly,

I think almost every girl has a relationship where they wanted to "save" the other

Yeah I'd seen my friends do it before and had been scathing towards them - but now I know how that feeling just sucks you in.

Doc

Mark is a very lucky bloke

Actually the pair of us have an in-joke where we both say "No, I'm the lucky one". I like to think of it as we happened to each other at just the right time to save each other's lives.

Tova

My husband is not insecure, he just refuses to acknowledge I ever cared about any man before him.

I have felt strongly about other men before and Mark acknowledges this, but I've never been in love with my best friend before. It ROCKS!
hugs to you all

Dr Guy

on Jan 24, 2007

Actually the pair of us have an in-joke where we both say "No, I'm the lucky one".

That is called "the Finest kind!" as in a perfect match! Congrats on that!

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